On Elastic Ties: Distance and Intimacy in Social Relationships

Stacy Torres

Sociological Science, April 9, 2019
10.15195/v6.a10


Drawing on five years of ethnographic fieldwork among older adults in a New York City neighborhood, I present empirical data that complement survey approaches to social isolation and push our understanding of social ties beyond weak and strong by analyzing relationships that defy binary classification. Usual survey items would describe these participants as isolated and without social support. When questioned, they minimize neighborhood relationships outside of close friends and family. But ethnographic observations of their social interactions with neighbors reveal the presence of “elastic ties.” By elastic ties, I mean nonstrong, nonweak relations between people who spend hours each day and share intimate details of their lives with those whom they do not consider “confidants.” Nonetheless, they provide each other with the support and practical assistance typically seen in strong-tie relationships. These findings show how people’s accounts may not accurately reflect the character and structure of their social ties. Furthermore, they demonstrate how a single social tie can vary between strong and weak depending on the social situation. Many social ties fall outside weak and strong; they are elastic in allowing elders (and other marginal groups) to connect and secure informal support while maintaining their distance and preserving their autonomy.
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Stacy Torres: Department of Social and Behavioral Sciences, University of California, San Francisco
E-mail: stacy.torres@ucsf.edu

Acknowledgements: I thank Kathleen Gerson, Colin Jerolmack, Lynne Haney, Steven Lukes, Dalton Conley, Ronald Breiger, Anthony Paik, and Claude Fischer for their guidance and feedback on earlier versions of this article. A special thanks to my study participants, who shared their lives with me for several years. Support for data collection and project write-up was funded in part by fellowships from New York University, the American Sociological Association Minority Fellowship Program (cosponsored by Sociologists for Women in Society), the Ford Foundation, and the UC President’s Postdoctoral Fellowship Program. Publication is made possible in part by support from the UCSF Open Access Publishing Fund.

  • Citation: Torres, Stacy. 2019. “On Elastic Ties: Distance and Intimacy in Social Relationships.” Sociological Science 6: 235-263.
  • Received: November 15, 2018
  • Accepted: February 18, 2019
  • Editors: Jesper Sørensen, Mario Small
  • DOI: 10.15195/v6.a10


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